July 22, 2018
Landed and take over from LH and Dick.
Father condition is as expected and just telling myself to be patient.
Feel good to have the chance to take care of parent when they grows old.
Feel good to have the chance to take care of parent when they grows old.
July 2018 Singapore Trip
> Hoon- 4 boxes 太陽餅
2018/7/22
Landed and home at 9pm - Handover from LH and Dick
2018/7/23
Wake up 6am - Take before meal medicine
And after meal medicine, Bath and rub lotion
4th uncle visit in the afternoon with dumpling
Eat fruit at 3pm , dragon fruit
At 4pm father is feeling hit on head and stomach.
Slept early at about 9pm - Check midnight he is sleeping ok
2018/7/24
6am already taken bathing - Start washing cloth
Take chicken essence , Changed Hearing Aid battery
Afternoon 4pm , father start to worry about not passing motion. Suggest skipping dinner.
5.50pm father getting nervous as he cannot pass motion , took one panedo as feeling pain.
Went toilet try to buy cannot pass motion , used too much strength and trembling. Told father not to stress, blood pressure will go high.
Might not be taking dinner.
Brought porridge, father eat peacefully.
Passed motion at 9pm. Comfortable now.
Dick and LH was here .
Dick flying tomorrow, back on Saturday.
Meeting at kopitiam/ the solution is to get a maid.
( Dick , LayHoon, Chieu discussion)
Among us we support the employment of a maid to help in household matter.
Reason or strategy to approach :- the maid is to help out Hwei family chores , so that you guys had more time to handle father requirements. The way to te father is, if father need any help from the maid, it is fine.
The excuse is, maid for household chores.
Father wake up and decided he cannot sleep with the bed the other way , have to turn back to old direction . 12midnight
2018/7/25
5am watch out, 6am watch out
Me wake up at 7.30am, father already done morning routine.
Brought 豆花，father take a bit.
(8th uncle)
Father is more or less agreed to having to employee a maid in house . 8th uncle just drop by this morning and talk to father. Father is soften and most likely willing to accept the maid option. 8th uncle also suggest the wheel chair is best for father . I see father is soften to accept the wheel chair too.
Official answer to father:
Lunch , 11am - fish porridge with half 油條, no pepper!
4th uncle was here to just visit.
Father looks tired and just lie on the sofa chair.
Drive car to paid mother visit and pray for good health. Got her coffee.
Eat some apple, cutted into smaller pieces.
Dinner,6.30pm- Porridge, fish, tomato egg. Eat only half the portion.
9pm father to sleep in the hall , as he claim the room is too hot. I suggest switch the aircon, he said he is afraid of cold .
Father claim I don’t understand always against him in all matters.
11.46pm father call me to ask for a sweet as he feel his lips is dry.
2017/7/26, Thursday
So sorry, left the key in the metal door. Father complain about it.
Breakfast brought small portion of 豬腸粉，father like and finished it.
Lay Hoon drop by at 11.30am - ask father demo to her how to get up from chair without assistance .
Lose patient - what are important and immediate ? Cleaning/sweeping the doorstep? Drying the clothing?
4pm have to go out to do. errands for cpf mattters. Pickup the mails from Macpherson flat.
7th uncle and wife visited father.
6.45pm brought fish ball soup for dinner.
Father switch on Air-con early.
Managed to sleep early but wake up again midnight.
2018/7/27, Friday
6am father already wake up, he want to bread with kaya 1pcs.
Brought 豆花 and share with him half of the portion.
Take small portion of the dragon fruit.
Father said he is not taking lunch today. I say I am buying lunch and “will give him a small portion “ . Hahaha. That small portion is actually his lunch lah! 美麗的謊言.
1.30pm 4th uncle visit and brought the homemade 湯圓.
3.45pm father ask me to switch on the room air-Con to cook down so that he can sleep in the night. I say it is only 3.45pm. He told me not to argue, he say he is in great pain on the back bone and you don’t understand. I switch on the air-con now.
5pm. 7th uncle son, 龍彪 visit father with the wife . Encourage to employ a maid .
七叔的大兒子，龍彪今天來看爸爸，坐了很久，買了燕窩來。
6.15pm dinner time , share my portion of dinner. Porridge+fish+egg.
Plus half a slice of papaya .
9pm start to go to sleep with air-con cooled since 5pm. Hear father snooze , checked until midnight.
2018/7/28, Saturday
Wake up at 7am, feeling weak.
Ask to rub lotion on back.
Eat toast with kaya one piece .
I make a cup of milk (powder type) father drank it.
Morning buy the mee Hoon for breakfast, give father some but only eat a bit. Get him one banana but he ate half only.
Lunch at 11.45am fish porridge. Eat half of the bowl and fish meat.
2.30pm ask him want to drink fresh milk, father say half glass.
Now waiting standby for toilet .
GeeMin sister called to say hello.
Dinner at 6.30pm , take a small of 河粉。take small half piece of papaya .
Sleep very early at 9pm with air-con
At 10pm, Assist in urine , coming up and down the bed is really difficult for father this two days. Convince to leave the air-Con on to sleep. Put socks on his feets. Remind to buy a larger sock tomorrow .
Checked until 12midnight. Went to sleep myself.
2018/7/29, Sunday
6am assist father in the urine cleaning and rubbing the back with cream.
Breakfast at 7am with one piece of bread and kaya, milk powder finished half cup. He wanted some prune juice .
Carrot cake white, father say too oily.
11am - Mother side - 4th and 5th uncle visit father. Brought grape . He say it is brittle.
2pm still cannot pass motion .
Give him half a cup of fresh milk , he say it’s cooling .
6.30pm Dick and Hoon came over with the wheelchair. Hoon brought the porridge dinner for father.
Thereafter, they are buy the standing walking stick .
11pm check on father , pour the urine bottle . Help father to sit upright as he preferred, meaning he is wake with air-con on.
Check at 12midnight, father sleeping well with Air-con on.
2018/7/30 , Monday
Wake at 6am to check in father, he is ok with using the wheelchair for bathing.
Clean up the wheel oxidized flakes . Replacement if the wheel is $120 for both wheels.
9.30am brought 豬腸粉 and give father a bit to eat.
10am went to Chinese medical hall to buy the “Siang pure oil 上標油” for pain relieve usage.
12.30pm lunch with porridge + fish+ steam egg+ potato slice.
1pm , 4th arrived withe TaoSuan and green bean.
Father still trying to pass motion but not successful yet.
Whatapps with Hwei about the maid arrangement . No conclusion yet.
Second auntie and husband visit. Brought 滷肉，米粉，咖喱，掛包。
Father finally pass motion at 5pm . What a relieve
Drawn the proposed layout and send to Hwei.
Took auntie meehoon and Curry at 6.30pm
Cutted the meehoon and 滷肉to smaller pieces for father.
7.45pm , Dick came over for dinner.
9pm father start sleeping.
Check until midnight - father is sleeping well.
2018/7/31, Tuesday
6am wake up , assist father in bathing. Rub back with lotion.
Wash and dry the clothing.
Breakfast with milk and biscuit , one piece of Tuige 水糕。
10.30am compliant backside pain, put a cushion is much better.
11.05am asking for porridge lunch, take half portion.
12.30pm father friend uncle BaYee visited. Encouraging Home to go downstairs for fresh air. Father eat one small banana.
2pm - Received call from Ah Suan , she and Ah Chuan is planning to come this Thursday about 1.30pm
4pm, father ate small portion apple fruit .
5pm repaired father cupboard lower drawer. Suggest to buy a new one
6.21pm ,Dinner comes with porridge + fish + TouFu.
7.30pm, Dick and Lay Hoon was here. Brought TaoSuan for me. So warm feeling. Went coffee with Dick at coffee shop.
9pm , father went to bed .
Check until past midnight. Father sleeping ok .
2018/8/1, Wednesday
6pm , father already taken shower.
While siting down in his bed , his hand slip and abrasion the right hand , slight cut , plastered already, ok
Follow by milk drink and 1 piece of bread with kaya .
Ate the medicine already.
> Observation report
This is a brand new bathing towel.
Father say he doesn’t have a face towel for bathing and requested a bathing towel. He say the bathing towel is ok. But today used fir the first time , he say it is too heavy (after cleaning and feel heavy with water, will be more heavy if absorbed too much water.
Thus, he request a lighter towel but longer one, which can circle his body one round and will not drop down accidentally.
So l cutted the brand new towel unto 1/3 and 2/3 width. The reason l need to highlight is father strength is seem to be weaker. Thus, it is important to teach (l am learning at the same times) how to position himself to use lesser strength 借力使力。 end of observation report 8/1
> probable cause of back pain.
Father finally hinted to me the pain when he experience might be in-between the buttock. I have a look at the buttock and found there is abrasion or some wound (may be due to long time rubbing, l think) . Apply cream Si that it is more smoother and less abrasion . See picture of the wound before applying cream. 8/1 at 10am.
If this is the cause of the pain he is experiencing for the past few days. Then it will be considered quite a good news. The pain might be the cause of pain, when he move or get up from sofa, chair and bed . Father say he will help to verify whether this was the cause of the pain .
2pm increase the cream fit the buttock.
1pm 4th uncle visit
3pm dragon fruit, small portion, father ate already .
4.25pm trying to pass motion by drinking liquid.
Hoon cane around 7pm with dinner. Join Dick for dinner at coffee shop
Hoon called father pass motion while taking dinner. Take it easy.
Sleep at before 9pm.
2018/8/2, Thursday
6pm wake up to help father with his bathing and breakfast stuffs.
9.30am went to DBS to settle bank matters. Went to court picking up the digital tv box .
1pm , 4th uncle brought some gappies fishes.
2pm , Ah Suan+Ah Chuan+ZhiChao visited father , brought the dinner porridge and carrot cake too.
5pm, father ate the small grape , with skin peel off already
7pm , Encourage him to take fish porridge that ah Suan brought. Took one small bowl only.
8pm dinner with Dick, went to Guardian to look for the walk support. Brought coffee for father.
Father said this sofa chair is comfortable for him. He will also sleep on the chair tonight .
2018/8/3, Friday
A busy morning, heard father at 4.50am. He is not in time to get the container for urine, small portion of bed urine and mostly on the floor. He gets excited and the problem he has many instructions . I ask him to “do one thing at a time” . first get father clean up and change to a new shirt pant . Let him sit on the chair with backing. Apply Alo Vera on the body and legs .
The clear the flooring and wash the pants and drying.
That is almost one hour passed.
Get ready the breakfast bread and powder milk. Father take his medicine. Station him on bed and rest a while myself.
7.30am, father start resting outside. Got him a coffee from kopitiam .
Today is busy and breakfast + lunch at 2pm.
Auntie and husband , plus 4th uncle visited .
7.30pm Dinner , brought the porridge from coffee shop near to ntuc.
8pm, Dick and 2 lady drop by to keep father company.
12midnight , confirm with father, he is ok sleeping on the big sofa chair.
Note: he ask me whethe I have See the house keys , search high and low . At last located in father’s shirt pocket..... wonder is there some sign or what .
It is so tough not to feel xxxx , when father tell me to go to sleep and keep on asking for me, “where is the light you brought”.
1am , dealing with father urined on the big sofa chair.
Step 1 : get him to the toilet and father decided to take a shower.
Step 2: walk to his room To Change to dry clothing.
Step 3: clean up the sofa to the best it can be, not sure it will smell or not when dried .
Step 4: wash the clothing and towel , etc.
No maid will be very tough on the caregiver.
2am , seem to be sleeping well with air-con switch on.
2018/8/4 , Saturday
Start busy at 6am
Done with father breakfast , milk + bread , took the medicine already.
Leave cck at 7.30am for Changi airport
2018/8/6, Monday
Hwei informed father in A&E due to lung infection .
2018/8/7, Tuesday
10am called father on the mobile phone to say everything is ok.
2018/8/8, Wednesday
2018/8/18, Saturday
Hwei called while l was airport around 3pm. He say father just passed away. I am on the way back home too.
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